Jonas Brothers Standards in a Lady Gaga Culture
Posted by Jeremy on June 19, 2009
Singer Lady Gaga has said that she wants to party like a porn star with America's favorite teen pop stars! The 'Poker Face' singer has said that she wants to invite the Jonas Brothers trio - siblings Kevin, 21, Joe, 19 and Nick, 16, into her bed for a night of passion.
"I love the Jonas Brothers, they're very talented. I met them once. I'd like to have a foursome with them", Contactmusic quoted her as telling Britain's Daily Star newspaper. But the crooner might face many problems trying to seduce the Disney band, as the boys wear purity rings and have publicly voiced their no sex before marriage beliefs.
Now, I know that I'm not a "sexpert", but I do know enough to try and convince you that it's worth waiting to have good sex for the rest of your life! And the key for experiencing a fulfilling sexual life is not found in experimenting early and often. I do not think that sex is evil. I actually think it is a great idea. I am just convinced that the right thing at the wrong time perverts and ruins the right thing...sometimes ruining it for the rest of our lives.
Sex is not the problem. A lack of commitment is the problem. Media and music, our primary entertainment influences, somehow like to give us the impression that sex outside of a lifetime commitment is recreational, harmless and normal. This is not the case! Sex on television usually ends with a quip and a smile. That's not how life works. We aren't seeing an accurate portrayal of real life relationships.
Remember watching cartoons as a little kid? We laughed at ridiculous characters doing ridiculous feats. In the old Tom and Jerry cartoons, Tom could run into a wall running 100 mph while chasing Jerry, land on his back, shake his head, and walk away from it just fine. You knew that wouldn't work in real life, didn't you? Isn't that kind of scenario what made it humorous? It's just not possible to hit a wall running that fast, expect to just shake it off, and walk away. Same goes for a lot of sex in movies and television. You can not walk in and out of sexual relationships, simply shake off the consequences, and walk away from it just fine. It doesn't happen!
Sex outside of a lifetime commitment in marriage has consequences.
You will never regret using PATIENCE! Patience pays off in the long run. My girls are learning how to make microwave popcorn on their own. They like to put the bag in the microwave and set the "auto timer" on our machine for perfectly popped corn. The "auto timer" promises kernel nirvana if you are just patient to wait it out. My girls are learning about patience. They like to watch the popcorn in the microwave and count down the two minutes it takes to cook. But sometimes the two minutes takes forever. They are really hungry! They not only want popcorn, they want their popcorn right now. So they hit the red button on the microwave, and decide that the popcorn should be ready. Much to their disappointment, half the bag is nothing but hot seeds. I try to explain to them that their impatience doesn't speed up the process. If they could only understand that some things cannot be hurried.
Too many of us are like this with relationships. We have "needs" that we feel we must pay attention to now! It seems impossible to wait until marriage to have sex. I'm trying to let you know that you can "open the microwave" early, but you are not going to enhance the experience by doing so. Perhaps the greatest danger to experiencing fulfilling sex in marriage is searching for fulfilling sex outside of marriage.
Sex is too good to ruin. It's not worth risking long term fulfillment for short term needs. Practice patience by adopting the Jonas Brothers' motto "No Ringy...No Dingy".
Sorry Lady Gaga. You might have a great Poker Face, but this Three of a Kind will not ante up on your Full House request!
Anti-Ordinary
Every month I have the opportunity to meet thousands of students all across our country. I recently met a young man who’s story inspired me, and I want to share his story with you. Phillip Bishop is a great example of how students can overcome extraordinary challenges to live extraordinary lives.
Here's Phillip's story:
Have you ever had a life-changing incident? I’m sure that most people, if not all, have had an extraordinary circumstance sometime during their lives. But, did that incident literally affect your day-to-day life? That life-changing incident happened in my life at the age of five, and it affects my everyday life in an extraordinary way.
It all began on a day that seemed fairly ordinary. However, on this particular day, something extraordinary happened to me, something that I couldn’t understand at the time. My brother and I were having fun, chasing each other around the house. Suddenly, we both slipped. I landed on the floor, but my brother’s head landed with a loud “thud” on my left thigh. Like a normal five-year-old, I began to cry. Hearing me cry, my mom came over and asked, “Are you all right?” I muttered, “Ryan’s head hit my leg.” To me, it seemed like an ordinary “boo boo”. But there was something about that “boo boo” that would reveal something far from ordinary. When Mom examined my legs, she found a big lump that had popped up on my thigh where Ryan’s head had landed. My mom put some ice on the “lump” and called the doctor. After seeing the doctor, we were advised to go immediately to a hospital for an x-ray.
A few days later, we went to the hospital to get an x-ray taken. No one was prepared for what the x-ray showed and what the doctor had to say. My family was gathered in the hospital lobby, anxiously awaiting the test results. Then the doctor came into the lobby, holding the results of the x-ray in his hand. He went straight over to my parents and said, “Mr. and Mrs. Bishop, I’m sorry, but your son has cancer.” My mom immediately started to cry, but I sat there acting as if nothing had happened. Of course, at the time I was five, so I didn’t really understand what was going on, except I wondered to myself, “Mom, why are you crying?” It turned out that I had an Osteogenic Sarcoma, which is a type of bone cancer. The cancer consumed my whole left thigh. My parents experienced total shock. I, on the other hand, was totally oblivious to the news that had just been brought before us. Even though this news affected me the most out of anybody in the room, I still wasn’t aware of the devastation cancer would have on my life. This was the beginning of a long road ahead.
Over the course of that year, I was in and out of the hospital for chemotherapy treatments. All of this was leading up to the extraordinary circumstance that was about to occur, the day that my life would be changed forever.
The date was June 17, 1997, the day before my surgery. I woke up, got dressed, and got ready to go to Chuck E. Cheese’s (every little kid’s paradise) before we went to Columbus, Ohio, for my operation the next day. My family wanted to provide me a little bit of fun before the upcoming surgery. After Chuck E. Cheese’s, my parents and I left for Columbus. We stayed at the Ronald McDonald House near the hospital. I remember that night quite vividly. I was acting as if nothing important were happening the next day and as if I didn’t have cancer. I was enjoying my last night of being a normal kid with two legs.
The next day dawned, June 18, the day of my operation. I remember it as if it were yesterday. Early in the morning, my parents took me to the Children’s Hospital in Columbus. My operation was at 9:00 AM. We got to the hospital and I was immediately taken to the dressing room. I got dressed and went to a bed in the lobby of the operating room. I was there waiting, minding my own business, playing “The Lion King” on Gameboy. Then the doctors came in and rolled me into the operating room. The time was upon me. They laid me down on the bed, took the Gameboy away, and prepared to begin the operation. Only then did I realize what was about to happen to me. The last thing I remember before becoming unconscious is hearing myself cry, “I want my mommy!”
I woke up ten hours later in a hospital bed wondering what had happened. Then I pulled my sheets down and saw that half of my left leg was gone. Since the tumor was in my whole left thigh, the doctors removed my knee and most of my femur. After this, they took what remained of my left leg, which was everything below the knee, reversed it, and reattached it to where my femur used to be. This procedure is called a VanNess Rotation Plasty. My life was now changed forever.
During the next several months, I went through a rehabilitation period, which consisted of exercises that helped me get accustomed to my new leg, in order for me to be able to walk. Although this time was very discomforting to a five year old, it helped me to develop perseverance. This perseverance enabled me to walk again and without much difficulty.
Because of this occurrence, not a day goes by without my being reminded of the permanent results of my surgery. However, I believe that this incident is extraordinary. Without it, I might not be the person I am today. It happened, and I can’t do anything about it, but I can decide what my attitude will be toward it. As of right now, I do not let this circumstance get in the way of doing anything. Even though I have a prosthetic leg, I love to play sports. God has blessed me with the talent to play a variety of sports, such as golf, basketball, soccer, and football. When I play sports, people initially take it easy on me because they see that I have a prosthetic leg, but once they see that I'm totally capable of playing the sport, even with a disability, they are in awe at my ability to play it.
I love to share my story. Whether it's in a large group or one-on-one, know this story can touch the heart of at least one person who is listening. By sharing my story, I’ve had the opportunity to talk to others who are going through pain. I love the ability to be a voice of encouragement to them.
I know that my life has purpose. Though I may have faced an extraordinary challenge, I know that this has shaped me to live an extraordinary life!
Phillip is the nicest Pittsburg Steeler’s fan you’ll ever meet!
He makes his home in Newport News, Virginia.
If you or someone you know has an anti-ordinary story you’d like to share, we want to to hear it! Send your story to jeremy@123jeremy.com
